My friend (and “shadow guru”) Mike Kim once told me, “When you are growing in self-awareness, you discover not everyone you love wants to grow along with you.”
I recently got back into touch with a friend of mine from my early 20s. We both used to roll with the same set in NYC while we were working a job in the same office. She was in sales, I was a copywriter.
10 years or so later, and she's at the BET Music Awards and I published a book. If we had held onto each other back in the day, I don't think we would have gotten this far. We would have stayed getting kicked out of bars in Newark.
I recently got back into touch with a friend of mine from my early 20s. We both used to roll with the same set in NYC while we were working a job in the same office. She was in sales, I was a copywriter.
10 years or so later, and she's at the BET Music Awards and I published a book. If we had held onto each other back in the day, I don't think we would have gotten this far. We would have stayed getting kicked out of bars in Newark.
Wow, what a great perspective. And I won’t even ask what it was exactly you did to get kicked out of those bars.
Eh, nothing too bad. The usual. Getting loud, screaming in people's faces for more drinks, clothing issues.
This is one of the hard lessons of life and personal growth. Thanks for writing this, Ray!
Glad you found it worth reading, Michael.
Great phrase.
Like most of “my” great phrases, borrowed from someone else.
“Not your job, dude. That’s just how it goes.”
Perfect!
Yes, he’s like that.
My challenge is quite a few of those who don't want to upgrade are inside my own head. I am still working on how to leave those voices behind.
I suspect more than a few of us can relate to that, Garry!